Sunday, May 3, 2026
The result of these past months, weeks, and days…
First—happy birthday to my husband. So grateful to celebrate you 🤍
We’ve had visits from incredible people—moments I truly cherish—while also pushing me to the edge of what I thought I could handle.
A full house, a full heart.
We made your birthday party happen… and somehow pulled it off in what felt like a blink.
So many meals cooked these past weeks, and I’ve been deeply touched by the kindness and love surrounding us.
A new ability emerging:
learning to be present, to truly enjoy the moment—even when you can’t be with everyone you love at once.
Holding close in my prayers those going through difficult times.
A powerful lesson from our friends who traveled so far with their children—showing strength, courage, and a love of life that feels like the most beautiful tribute to someone we all miss.
A reminder to live from the “cup half full.”
A visit from a friend of 40+ years and her daughter—unexpected, not “the right time”… and yet, exactly the right moment.
A reminder: we must make time.
Kids are entering exam season.
Work has been intense at times… and at others, I’ve learned to let go.
And I realize—I have elevated my work significantly over the past two years.
Decisions are being made—toward a more authentic self.
Finding a balance between who I am deeply, and the life we are living.
Tonight, the house will be quiet again.
We will miss the laughter, the movement, the blonde heads running around.
I will find my studio again… my rhythm…
Or maybe just continue learning to move with life—
its constant changes, its demands, its beauty.
For now, it feels like I’ve learned how to live within it.
For a few weeks, at least.
With love and light,
Jess ✨
P.S. There is something else I’ve been reminded of……
seeing it from the outside.
At times in the past, as a wife and a mother, I felt a deep loss of control over my own life and time.
As if I was living to serve the dreams and wishes of my other half—and my children—
not against me, but simply because he knew how to ask, how to make things happen… and they didn’t hesitate either.
And why wouldn’t they?
That’s where boundaries come in.
But most women are not taught that—or don’t develop it naturally.
The truth is—most women are not raised that way.
Even when we are independent and educated, we are often taught to care, to hold, to make sure everyone around us is okay.
So when we become wives and mothers, we get pulled—naturally—into nurturing, carrying, giving.
And somewhere along the way, we can lose our footing.
It becomes essential to learn this:
caring for others should never mean forgetting yourself.
Your dreams matter too.
This is deeply connected to why I created Unchained Mothering.
Because no matter how strong, independent, or driven a woman is, this dynamic is very real—and very common.
And when we can’t find our way back to ourselves, something heavy settles in: guilt, frustration… sometimes even the feeling that the only way out is to break everything.
But there is another way.
I’m deeply grateful to have moved beyond that stage—
to still put my family first, but no longer at the expense of myself.
Unless it’s absolutely necessary—and then there is no regret.
To say yes to them… and also yes to me.
I’m also grateful for my husband’s patience through that process—
because it’s no one’s fault to want what they want.
Marriage is learning to grow—and to adjust—together.
It’s a commitment: to look back at what we’ve built, to work through what needs to be fixed, and to move forward.
Challenges are part of life.
We all hope they remain small—but breaking everything rarely solves the root of the problem.
Often, that root is within us: learning who we are, understanding our needs, and learning how to communicate them.
And that, to me, will always be the better path.
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